Ulysses Pacts: STOP believing in your self

Final week, I downloaded a brand new online game to play.

And half-hour later, I uninstalled the sport. Not as a result of I didn’t like the sport, however particularly as a result of I appreciated the sport an excessive amount of. The sport is known as Dave the Diver, the place you’re a SCUBA Diver/Sushi restaurant proprietor. You spend every day diving and catching fish, after which every night serving sushi on the restaurant.

This sport pressed each organic button my mind has for “effectivity.”

My mind instructed me I needed to execute every dive as effectively as potential. Every night time on the restaurant meant I wanted to obtain a 100% buyer satisfaction ranking.

In fact, nothing would occur if I didn’t.

However this sport + my mind equaled a recipe for addictive catastrophe. After half-hour I knew if I didn’t delete it, I’d spend each potential minute enjoying the sport, and each minute not enjoying could be spent fascinated about find out how to get extra environment friendly on the sport.

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As a result of I’m in the course of writing a secret-book-shaped-project that I can’t speak about… I knew I wanted to avoid wasting Future Steve.

In different phrases, it was time to channel an historic technique for survival:

A “Ulysses Pact.”

What’s a Ulysses Pact?

In Homer’s Odyssey, Ulysses (also called “Odysseus”) is about to sail previous a harmful island of Sirens who sing stunning music. This music is so stunning that anyone who hears it loses all management, and can sail towards the island, crashing their boat on the rocks surrounding the island.

Fortunately, our boy Uylsses has been suggested by the witch Circe on the one manner he and his males can survive. In Madelline Miller’s Circe, she recounts the recommendation Circe offers the captain:

“[For] the Sirens, there chances are you’ll use your tips. Fill your males’s ears with wax, and depart your personal free. When you tie your self to the mast, chances are you’ll be the primary man to ever hear their music and inform the story.”

As creator Corey Doctorow factors out in a current publication:

“Ulysses was robust sufficient to know that he would sometime be weak. He expressed his power by guarding in opposition to his weak spot.

“Whenever you take some risk off the desk throughout a second of power in recognition of some coming second of weak spot.”

In different phrases, generally giving up on your self is probably the most brave factor you are able to do. It asks you to just accept your weaknesses, and make a strategic pre-planned determination to guard in opposition to them.

Ulysses Pacts In My Life

I’m a comical catastrophe trapped within the physique of an grownup who pretends to be a functioning member of society. I’m additionally my very own boss, utterly accountable for my time. Yikes.

I wrestle with impulse management. There are specific experiences that I’m simply incapable of doing “just a little bit.” I additionally know that after I begin an pleasurable exercise, it’ll take over.

Which suggests it’s virtually not possible for me to solely do some issues “just a bit bit” after which say “okay that’s sufficient for in the present day.”

In spite of everything, I do know my mind isn’t geared up to deal with the lifetime of abundance we’re surrounded with: infinite distraction, hedonistic enjoyment, limitless meals, and so on.

E.O. Wilson stated it finest:

“The true drawback of humanity is the next: We now have Paleolithic feelings, medieval establishments and godlike know-how.”

Reasonably than lament my lack of willpower with regards to addictive know-how, I apply acceptance and as an alternative make willpower pointless.

Thus, my life is held along with spit, duct tape, and Ulysses Pacts:

I’ve an app on my telephone known as Opal. It robotically prompts at 7AM and blocks sure apps, web sites, and all social media for many of the hours of the work day. I nonetheless decide up my telephone 10-20 instances per day and attempt to open these apps, after which I’m reminded to get again to work.
I take advantage of a program on my pc known as Focus. It robotically prompts at 7AM and blocks virtually ANYTHING enjoyable or distracting on my pc till the top of the work day.
I don’t preserve snacks in my home. I like snacks. And as soon as a bag is open, it will get eaten. However once I’m sitting on the sofa watching TV (I simply completed Fallout and cherished it), and I’m craving a snack, there’s no determination to be made. I’m actually not going to drive to the shop.
I don’t have any video games on my telephone. I do know that I can’t management any impulses, particularly for “gatcha” free video games that encourage you to purchase gems to degree up.
I’m locked out of every social media app after quarter-hour every single day. Social Media has been designed by behavioral scientists, with billions of {dollars}, to be as addictive as potential. So I don’t attempt to “use it just a bit bit.” I merely don’t let myself use it for any longer than “just a little bit” as a result of I’m actually locked out.
I don’t play multiplayer video games. I’ve no regulation round “okay I’m achieved,” so I not play multiplayer video games. I wager if I performed World of Warcraft, you’ll by no means get one other publication from me. Thus, I completely play single participant video games with a narrative or narrative.
I robotically donate to 2 charities each month: ProPublica investigative journalism and the Nashville Meals Kitchen. Each of those selections have been made ONCE, which suggests I by no means have to recollect to donate, nor am I tempted to spend the cash as soon as it hits my account.
Every time I am going to the physician, dermatologist, or dentist, I all the time schedule my subsequent appointment whereas I’m there. As a result of I do know I’ll neglect to take action months later, or I’ll inform myself I don’t want to go. Future Steve will not need to get his tooth cleaned or get bloodwork achieved.
My exercises are pre-scheduled in my calendar. I’d a lot moderately not work out, however I do know if I don’t plan for them in my calendar, one thing else way more enjoyable (however much less helpful) will take their place.

The one purpose you get this article each week, and the one purpose I get to the fitness center a couple of instances per week (along with successful the genetic and environmental lottery), is due to these Ulysses Pacts.

Right here’s how you need to use them in your personal life.

You-lysses Pacts in Motion

Returning to Corey Doctorow:

“Ulysses pacts aren’t excellent, however they’re essential. On the very least, making a Ulysses pact begins with acknowledging that you’re fallible. You could be tempted, and rationalize your manner into taking dangerous motion, even when you understand higher.

Turning into an grownup is a technique of studying that your power comes from seeing your weaknesses and defending your self and the individuals who belief you from them.”

Let’s see how we are able to add some Ulysses Pacts to your life.

To create your personal Ulysses Pact: search for alternatives to decide TODAY in a second of power, to safeguard your self in opposition to an anticipated second of weak spot TOMORROW.

Even higher, search for alternatives to decide as soon as, and it prevents you from needing to make use of willpower to repeatedly do the proper factor sooner or later.

A couple of extra examples:

Resolve to not preserve problematic meals in the home as soon as, and also you don’t need to spend all night time, each night time, deciding NOT to eat these meals.
Resolve to robotically donate to a trigger you like as soon as, and also you don’t have to recollect to not spend that cash on one thing else and donate every month.
Delete and/or block social media and time-wasting video games in your telephone as soon as, and abruptly the choice to learn a guide or go for a stroll moderately than mindlessly scroll by means of TikTok or Instagram turns into a lot simpler.

Keep in mind, acknowledging and creating safeguards in opposition to our weaknesses isn’t an indication of giving up or weak spot.

It’s a brave signal of acceptance.

It’s additionally good.

What are the Ulysses Pacts you employ in your personal life? Did this text encourage you to create one for your self?

Attain out and let me know!

-Steve

Tags: believing, Pacts, STOP, Ulysses

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